Specialty in Couples Counseling

Do you and you partner enjoy each other's company, time and love for one another and other commonalities? Despite the common ground are you struggling to solve problems, to listen and understand one another? Are you worried that this may be the end of your relationship? Are you telling one another more often than not that you want a divorce? Are you worried that if changes are not made you will divorce, separate or break up?

Research shows, that up to 69% of conflict in a long term relationship may not ever be resolved. In other words the current problem you are fighting about well likely be the same problem in 5 years. However, this is encouraging to know because you and your partner are (statistically) normal.

It is also the fact that while you are having the same argument over and over it does not necessarily mean it is a sign that your relationship is doomed. It may actually be a sign that your relationship has a hope.

How could I help you?

I can give you strategies for working together and communicating more effectively so that you can get back to enjoying each other.
I can help you choose kindness. Choose humor. Most importantly, choose perspective.
I can help you listen to understand and to validate one another even when you do not agree.
I can teach you ways to compromise without losing your own needs and desires in the midst of compromise.
We will explore your love maps and I help you gain insight into how those impact your relationship.
We will explore and identify the Four Horseman in your relationship and I will help you learn how to overcome and avoid them in the future.
I will help you accept that mistakes are normal. Arguments will happen - it is about the repair after the fight that matters.

What forms of intervention will be used:

Rebecca has completed both Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and the Level 3 Practicum Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Rebecca will utilize a number of interventions designed and proved to work by both methods and in my own practice with other couples.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - combines learning to decrease negative, self defeating self talk with increasing healthy behaviors
Mindfulness - is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where we are and what we’re doing, and not overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us.
Identify and / or develop anxiety management techniques
Identification of family and social support who will be available to you outside of our sessions
Medication - I will refer you to your primary care physician and / or psychiatrist if clinically indicated that your anxiety would benefit from the additional support / intervention of medication